We all experience the nostalgic feeling when we are about to part ways with a certain aspect of your life and when you have to part ways with a person even though the whole time with that aspect or person is miserable. I welcome you all to the "Graduation Goggles" theory
disclaimer: this is from HIMYM and I will only elaborate it further.
A lot of people feel sad during graduation days especially in highschool. However, most of the time, highschool is years of bullying, shaming, and unhealthy competitions. A lot of horrible things happen in highschool and we all negate it by the time of graduation for the sole reason that you will never see those people again. You are suddenly having an emotional attachment to the people who once made your life miserable. Although, this may not apply to some a lot can relate to this. If your highschool seems awesome even after years of looking back and not only at the moment you are about to leave then you really loved it or you're one of the mean people. either way.
Some relationships are toxic to the point that it is controlling and unhealthy. every aspect of your life is affected. Example cited will be when a guy or girl forbids his or her lover to socialize with their friends or to put it into extremes, the person is shut out of the world while the other is constantly cheating. Now in these scenarios one will feel useless and every negative emotion in the dictionary but, the moment he or she decides to break up; suddenly every good thing flashes back and negates the toxic habits that hurts you as a human being.
This theory is likely applicable to relationships. As the graduation goggles causes the person to come back to the one who hurt him or her with the expense of never moving on. Every time you try to leave an abusive relationship. The Graduation Goggles fools you everytime leaving you in an endless loop of staying with the person who can never be right for you.
This also applies to friendships or jobs that are continually harmful to you, you will attempt to leave everytime but the moment you are one step away from freedom, the graduation goggles kicks in and you go back in the place or person in which will never change and leaving is the most likely option.
Graduation goggles is most likely associated to the fear of change. We are so afraid of something unfamiliar that the familiarity hinders our growth as a person. The future is really scary, imagine jumping in to something that you have no clue about and you shall proceed from scratch, but you cannot keep holding in to the past because it's familiar. It is very tempting at times but you have to realize that staying is a mistake. Let the time you keep on insisting that the person or organization will change be the time that you move on.
The tip on breaking the graduation goggles is realizing that no matter how you hold on to the past, it is already gone. the familiar present and past is comfort but the uncertain future is growth. everyone is destined ot be miserable at the point of their lives, you just have to go through it. break these goggles.
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